After Class, Skimpy Equality (NY Times Article)

This article is one that is very relevant to all college students today. Both sides of the arguement hold merit, but my view is you are the only one who can let someone have power over you. If you are a female and you feel that the men are degrading women and rating them all in the name of fun, then dont go to the parties they throw because you will most likely not feel comfortable. One of the many things I found interesting was the fact that despite the email sent by the Duke frat throwing the party, many girls still went and showed up as asked to. In that instance no one is to blame but the girls. I dont think its fair to say that men are "in charge" just because they are the one's throwing the parties and social events. One interesting view is that of the male student who stated

"On the other hand, he asked, isn’t that a kind of female power? “A guy is more or less dependent on the women receiving his advances so if she is not interested, then tough luck for him,” Mr. Griffin said. “I think that in a way the girls relish that power. They can pick and say, ‘I’m not interested in that guy.’ ” 


I believe that statement is very accurate, everyone (boy or girl) wants to feel as if they are important or wield some power. Although the men ususally throw the events, the truth is they are not throwing parties to hang out wth other dudes and "chill"; they are looking to "fraternize" with women, and the women do wield the power because if they choose to reject the males advances there is nothing he can do about it except walk away in shame. Both sides share the blame, no one seems to complain until someone gets offended. I bet you if the Duke frat brothers had sent out the email without such lewd descriptions the girls still would have dressed that way. In short, college students have just accepted the reality of what todays college social life is. Is it good? Is it bad? who knows? but like I said earlier, only you can allow yourself to be degraded.